We don't know how to marry and we certainly don't know how to divorce either.
My life has not been easy in the past decade. I was thrown into one tornado after another. Unwillingly and with total confusion. But I came out BETTER than I was before my divorce. You know why? Because I understood the deep rooted reasons WHY I suffered for so many years and HOW I ended up broke & broken.
I am quite certain your story is (or will be) familiar with mine. It’s not easy to be vulnerable. But I know that this will save YOU and for that, I am ready to share it all with you.
When it comes to marriage, we tend to live in the moment. Yet, from my experience, that moment rarely holds onto your marriage tightly. My question to you is... How often do you and your spouse look at your mutual family goals?
How often do you verify if you are aligned and walking on the same path?
How often do you stop and review what IS and what ISN’T going well in your marriage? I believe that if more couples would work on their marriage goals on a yearly basis, many divorces could be prevented.
Is divorce always dreadful?
Or could it be a golden opportunity?
Do you feel you have LOST a part of yourself?
Would you like to REIGNITE that part of you?
You have a critical choice to make: you either focus on finding the treasure or, keeping the garbage. Will you get out of "yesterday"?
Are you laser focused on your end goal: what is it that you truly want in your life?
Does your divorce sit in yesterday’s saga?
Or are you focused on today and tomorrow?
Are you sitting in the looping sagas and reliving your divorce day after day?
Do you even realize that the main reason for your suffering is due to the fact that you just can’t let go of what WAS and therefore you keep repeating the same old stories over and over and over and over again.
This is a common pattern in divorce. This is the poison that keeps you from living your best life.
4 tips to truly shelter your children in your divorce:
1. Children don't know what we, as adults know- don't treat them like an adult! Let them keep their innocence.
2. Your children are not your business associates nor your work colleagues. Asking your children to "Email you" the details of the conflict or issue is crossing the border into Insanity.
3. What LEGACY do YOU want to leave behind?
4. Amplify the positivity and teach them about life and conflict resolution.
Hollywood stars have an easily accessible platform to share their divorce experiences with the rest of the world.
Where's your platform?
Do you need one or should you focus your attention instead on helping your children with appropriate coping strategies and teach them how to "amplify the positivity"?